20 things women should do to empower their life

1. Take care of your health. Spend time and money on maintaining yourself.

2. Learn to be independent. Its perfectly okay to not earn, but its important to be independent.

3. Learn to ride that bike or drive that car. You don’t always need an escort!

4. Plan your future. Learn about investments and taxes. Its not necessary to have someone else manage your savings and earnings all your life.

5. Treat your self. Plan and save for your own gifts n desires. You don’t always need a boyfriend or husband or your dad to buy you something you love. Gift yourself!

6. Be a daughter. Take equal responsibility of your parents. Its not acceptable to expect everything from your brother every time.

7. Don’t be guilty, Let the father take care of the unwell child once in a while. Its okay. Your career is equally important and the father is equally responsible.

8. Share the responsibility. Let other family members take care of your kitchen sometimes. Its okay if the kitchen platform is exceptionally unclean or sink is full of dirty vessels. Relax n take that break!

9. Help the other woman, even if you don't like her. You never know what her battles are. Empower the needy ones, like your maids. Teach her basics of hygiene, education and finances, little guidance can go long way.

10. Create a support system. Its okay to get on well with in-laws! Not every family needs to have a family dramas.

11. Have some friends (men and women) beyond your husband’s or boyfriend’s group. Its okay! Spend some time away from family with your friends.

12. Its okay to not cry. Not all women needs to be sentimental all the time.

13. Be vigilant, be prepared to handle tough situations. When things go wrong, try to be balanced and find way out of your problems. You don’t need to play the victim.

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What is Success?

How to Define Success in Life

There are some questions in life which are tricky to answer and the meaning of it keeps changing as we progress in life. I mean, Success has many meanings and every person has a different meaning of success. Sometimes the respect in the community or the top jobs in the big organization or winning a race or losing 5kg weight in a week or simply being happy in life makes you feel successful.

So the first question arises: What is a definition of success?

The oxford dictionary describes success as: “attaining wealth, prosperity and/or fame”.

In other words, you could say, success means the achievement of desired results of planned goals. Hence, if you can achieve your set goals, you will feel successful.

However, If the above definition was true then all the wealthy and famous people would be extremely happy but we often read that it's not the case. The reason why we think in such a manner because Media and Society often let us conclude that living a successful life means to be extraordinarily wealthy and have a lot of assets. However, the true meaning of success goes far beyond the common definitions of success, such as having a lot of money, being wealthy, having a lot of tangibles and earned degrees. True success in life cannot be measured with the above-mentioned factors.

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Dog's life, the facts of our life, Do we agree? or just a perception

Once upon a time, in the city of far far away, there was a Mr. Smith who hired the Mastiff dog as a personal assistant. The dog was no ordinary, he was extra ordinary, he used to help Mr. Smith with all his household work. If Mr, Smith asked him to bring something from the market, he would go and do it quicker than anyone. He often used to him to the town to bring home items.   

There was a butcher in the town, Mr. Churchil. He was working in his shop and got  really surprised when he saw a mastiff dog coming inside the shop. At first he got scared as it was dangerous looking pet dog so He shoos him away from behind the counter. But the dog kept coming back again and again.Then, finally he went to the door to shut it down so he can't come back again but he noticed something, the dog has a note in his mouth. 
He saw the note and it read "Can I have 12 sausages and a leg of lamb, please. The dog has money in his mouth, as well". The butcher looked inside and, behold, a ten dollar note. So he took the money and put the sausages and lamb in a bag, placing it in the dog's mouth. 

The butcher was so impressed, and since it's about closing time, he decided to shut up the shop and follow the dog. So off he goes.The dog is walking down the street when he comes to a level crossing. The dog puts down the bag, jumps up and presses the button.Then he waits patiently, bag in mouth, for the lights to turn. They do, and he walks across the road, with the butcher following him all the way. 

The dog then comes to a bus stop, and starts looking at the timetable. The butcher is in awe at this stage. The dog checks out the times, and then sits on one of the seats provided. Along comes a bus. The dog walks around to the front, looks at the number, and goes back to his seat. Another bus comes. Again the dog goes and looks at the number, notices it's the right bus, and climbs on. 

The butcher, by now, open-mouthed, follows him onto the bus. The bus travels through the town and out into the suburbs, the dog looking and enjoying the outside scenery. Eventually he gets up, and moves to the front of the bus. He stands on 2 back paws and pushes the button to stop the bus. Then he gets off, his groceries still in his mouth. Well, dog and butcher are walking along the road, and then the dog turns into a house. 

He walks up the path, and drops the groceries on the step. Then he walks back down the path, takes a big run, and throws himself against the door. He goes back down the path, runs up to the door and again, it throws himself against it. There's no answer at the house, so the dog goes back down the path, jumps up on a narrow wall, and walks along the perimeter of the garden. He gets to the window, and beats his head against it several times, walks back, jumps off, and waits at the door. 

The butcher watches as a big guy opens the door, and starts abusing the dog, kicking him and punching him, and swearing at him. The butcher runs up, and stops the guy. "What in heaven's name are you doing? The dog is a genius. He could be on TV, for the life of me!" to which the guy responds, "You call this clever? This is the second time this week that this stupid dog's forgotten his key." 


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What is love? Sweet Salty Coffee - Happy Valentines Day

Once upon a time, there was a group of friends Neal, Hannah, Victor and Jennifer who crashed at the beach side party. Everyone were enjoying there time near the camp fire, dancing, singing and drinking beers. Life was full of surprises and fun.

While people were enjoying their times, Neal saw a very beautiful angle, he couldn't move his eyes once he spotted her, She was the prettiest girl in that party. She was so outstanding, many guys were staring at her only. On the other side, Neal was so normal, average body , uncombed hair, geeky attire, in a way invisible to almost everyone, nobody paid any attention to him. However, At the end of the party, with lots of courage and many beers he politely invited her to have coffee with him tomorrow. At first, she was surprised and wanted to ignore him, but due to being polite and the innocence, she couldn't refuse and agreed to come on a coffee date.  

Next day, Neal was nervous and excited and couldn't believe that she has agreed to have a coffee with him. But as per the agreed time, she arrived and they both met at the cafe. Neal arrived at the place half and hour early and went to receive her. However, the funny thing was, Neal didn't know her name. So he was embarrassed to ask her name but didn't know how to address her during the conversations. 

They both sat in a coffee shop, Neal was too nervous to say anything that made her felt quite uncomfortable. She thought, why did she agree to come on a date? this is turning out to be complete disaster, please, let's go home. Neal also felt, as It was visible from her face that she was not enjoying this bored date.  

Out of nervousness, Neal suddenly asked the waiter loudly, "Would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee."

It was a very strange thing to ask so everybody in the cafe stared at him, so strange! His face turned red, but, still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it.

She laughed and asked him curiously, "Is this a joke?"

"No", Neal replied.

"Then, why you have this hobby?", the girl asked.

Neal replied: "When I was a little boy, I was living near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there".

Even while saying this tears filled his eyes. This made her emotional too. She was deeply touched by the honesty and loving nature of him. 

She thought, that's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home. 

This conversation broke the ice between them and made that girl comfortable and then, she also started to speak about her childhood, spoke about her faraway hometown, her family etc. Finally, the date ended in a very happy note, he also knew her name, Pia. 

IT was the beautiful beginning of their story. They continued to date. She found that actually Neal was the man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him if it wasn't for that salty coffee.

Hence, Thanks to his salty coffee, their story began and just like every beautiful love story, the princess married to the prince, then they were living the happy life. And then, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked it.

Time went on, year on years passed away and at the age of 72 years Neal passed away peacefully, in natural death. He had a very fulfilling and blissful life with Pia. After 42 years of marriage, he left her a letter which said: "My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life's lie. This was the only lie I said to you---the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead.

I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything.

Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth: I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste.. But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again.

She couldn't stop crying, knowing how much he loved her. Her tears made the letter totally wet.

Someday, someone asked her, "what's the taste of salty coffee?" 
"It is sweet.", She replied.